If you’re a trans admirer or have always had a special attraction to TS women, where do you meet them? It’s not like they congregate in places just to meet men like you. Dating is difficult, and you have to use all available resources, as well as put the effort in to meeting the kind of woman, and relationship, you want.
Use these tips to meet trans women online, to ask her out on a date, and to start the type of relationship you dream of.
Use niche and mainstream dating sites. You’re not going to find too many trans women on mainstream sites, but they are there. You can use filters or include a welcoming statement to trans women in your profile. Niche dating sites are made to cut to the chase. You have to pay for niche sites, but you will find more trans women than any other run-of-the-mill cis site.
Create a trans-positive dating profile. Too many men are so eager to meet trans ladies for hookups or whatever that they sign up and post a half-assed profile just so they can start sending messages. You’re doing yourself a disservice if you don’t spend the time crafting a profile that stands out. This initial effort will pay off later, I promise.
Be specific about what you’re looking for. Do you want a one night stand with a trans woman, an ongoing hookup arrangement, or are you in search of a steady girlfriend? Everyone wants something a little different. By being up front, you’re much more likely to find what it is you’re looking for, as well as avoid wasting anyone’s time.
Read profiles before sending messages. If you don’t send a first message that is personal to a woman, she’s likely to think you’re just using a cut-and-paste form letter (a big no-no amongst women, even if you think you’re being clever). Find something about her that you find intriguing and ask a question, or comment on something you have in common.
Plan a unique date. No more interview-like coffee dates, please. I always cringe when I see these couples in public— it’s uncomfortable for everyone. Take what you’ve learned from her profile, as well as through back-and-forth messaging, and plan something casual and fun. Women like a man with a plan!
Be respectful and gentlemanly. Hey, even a woman only interested in casual sex doesn’t want to be objectified or seen as something to be used. Woo her by opening doors, ordering her a drink, and picking up the tab. Most gals like chivalrous behavior, partly because many men have dropped this courteous behavior.
End the date on a high note. Even if things go off the rails and the date ends early, be polite when it comes time to say goodbye. If it’s only goodnight until next time, bring up some second-date ideas and go for a kiss. She may want casual sex, just not on the first date. Patience really does bring good things.