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Where to Meet Transexuals

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Looking everywhere to meet local transexuals and coming up empty?

The simple answer to the question “Where can I meet a transexual?” is this: anywhere you find all women. Why? Because trans women are just like other women who may enjoy eating out, shopping, or hanging out at coffee shops and bars. Hell, you may have come upon a transexual-of-your-dreams more than once and had no idea because some trans women are especially hard to spot.

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Before I go into the list of places to meet a TS, I want to make sure you understand the following: trans women typically don’t like “tranny chasers”. This may seem confusing because who wouldn’t like the people who adore them the most?! But what this boils down to is having the right intentions.

Trans women do not want to be approached by a guy simply because of their gender or their pre-op “secret”. They don’t care about your interest if it’s a novelty they provide, or if it has anything to do with the shemale porn you watched at home. A trans woman is a WOMAN, and like ANY woman, would like to know that you’re interested because you’re attracted to HER and the complete, unique person who she is.

Imagine this scenario: a woman gets hit on by a guy at the bar, and when he strikes out the woman sees him simply move onto the girl at the next barstool. That’s when she realizes that he’s not interested in her specifically but that any woman will do. Avoid making this mistake, and you’ll be elevated in her eyes from the get go.

So where are all the transexuals at? Well, if you haven’t found them or recognized them, among the general populous, try these suggestions:

GLBTT Friendly Places

Search for locations in your city that are trans-friendly and friendly to the gay and lesbian communities in general. I did a google search and through pages on “answer sites” and forums I found all sorts of recommendations for various places on and offline that were specific to my city. Ask and thou shalt receive! And don’t just focus on nightclubs because there are likely coffee shops or other places to hang out, particularly in your city’s GLBTT neightborhood.

Online Groups for Trans People and Their Supporters

Many of the recommendations I found for people seeking to meet trans people led to online groups. You can also search for transexual interest groups on Yahoo or even on Facebook. But remember, if you’re looking to actually meet up with someone, be sure to always search for groups that are for your specific city or the nearest large city.

Transexual Clubs and Gay Bars

Not every city is going to have a dedicated club for transexuals but they do exist. Ask people in the trans groups you joined or throw the question out on a forum for tgirls and their admirers. As for the gay bar, yes, I know you’re not gay, but in many towns that is the closest you’re going to get to finding a place where transexuals are comfortable and willing to talk to you when approached. Ask if any of the gay bars have a drag night as that is going to be a better bet.

Transexual Dating Sites

This is by far the easiest way for you to meet a local transexual. You don’t have to guess who is and who isn’t trans, or wonder if they’re even looking to hook up or to start a relationship. There are thousands of trans profiles, and all you need to do is push a button and write your message. And for those of you who think a paid dating site like TSmeet.com is too expensive, think of it this way: every time you go to a bar looking to pick up, it costs you much more than 20 bucks a month. Online dating – way more bang for your buck!

View our list of recommended Transexual dating sites here.


I don’t want to, but I have to throw this one out there. Craigslist has long been used to meet new people, especially by those seeking something quick and dirty. Go ahead and take a look but always be on the lookout for scams. In this particular instance, you’re going to find e$corts and people offering all sorts of “services” that are probably too good to be true. If you want to check it out, go to the craigslist page for your town, go to personals, and then click on t4m.

Good luck and remember, don’t wait for that sexy TS to approach you. While the internet would have us believe that all transexuals are man-eaters, the truth is that trans women love it when you make the first move. So don’t make her come to you – make her feel like the lady she is.

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  1. janedon1

    March 1, 2019 at 1:12 pm

    For practice a lot of us Gurls go out dressed to a mall or grocery store and places that we can feel safe. You see us, talk to us. If you say nothing like young teenage boys at a dance, you get nothing – the same as those boys.

  2. Stephen Welichko

    February 19, 2019 at 5:35 pm

    Hi, I’m out here in Howell, MI. I am looking for the ever so hard to find and purchase the I Heart TS bumper stickers for my wheelchairs. I get the I Heart TS newsletter twice a month (I love the articles… keeps me informed) but can never find the stickers.

  3. jane don

    January 5, 2019 at 11:47 pm

    Some good advice, but sometimes a Gurl IS just interested in the closeness of sex. Being “picked up” can be fun sometimes. Sometimes when out I’m more passable than other times. I often notice guys checking me out, but I’m never really sure if that’s good or bad (so I’m afraid of approaching them.) Are there “tricks” to know if a man is approachable?

    • Holly


      February 9, 2019 at 12:22 pm

      Hi Jane. Thank you for all your thoughtful comments on our posts. I’ve shared this comment with one of our writers to respond to in a post that will be published later this month!

  4. Erika

    September 14, 2018 at 10:22 pm

    It gets very confusing! Wish it were easier. And what is wrong with being attracted to a pre-op mtf? I hate the term “tranny chaser” and find it offensive. Just because there is a physical attraction, it does NOT mean there is also not an emotional or spiritual attraction. Isn’t this the same as a typical heterosexual attraction between a genetic male and female? Why do people who are attracted to mtf have to be “persecuted” and called “tranny chasers?”

  5. David

    May 25, 2018 at 1:43 pm

    I live in San Antonio, Texas. I am looking forward to finally meeting an Asian ladyboy for a very VERY long-term relationship. I travel by local bus. Big cuddler here, hope you are too. Of course, the initial meet and greet will determine how far we progress.

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  6. janedon1

    March 16, 2018 at 1:18 pm

    Personally, I like tranny chasers. I do find that online, 99% or more of the men are all talk and seem happy to just be alone and masturbate. On the other hand, guys who notice a Gurl in public (in a store, restaurant, etc.) seem AFRAID to actually start a conversation. What’s a Gurl to do???

    • Tommy

      March 26, 2018 at 2:43 am

      Where are you from if I may ask? I’m from NYC and would like to chat with you.

      • Holly


        April 9, 2018 at 3:26 pm

        Hi Tommy. I’m sorry, but we cannot publish personal information such as emails or telephone numbers of our readers.

  7. jane don

    November 14, 2017 at 11:52 am

    Hmmmm. I’d say that well over 90% of relationships of all types start with carnal desires (looking for sex only). Of course, looks play a big part to start… then comes the emotional connection. The old saying “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince” is very true. The storybook dream of finding the perfect person is just a dream. You can find someone to be happy with, BUT they are no more perfect than You are. – Jane

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    August 8, 2017 at 12:20 am

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    • Holly


      August 15, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      Hi Raylove. This blog is not a dating site, and thus, we do not publish any personal information such as phone numbers. Please check out TSmeet.com if you are interested in meeting trans women.

  11. Janedon

    June 10, 2016 at 11:28 pm

    For a lot of us GURLS, we’d rather the guy pick out that we are trans or crossdressers so there is no confusion, but guys are often afraid to approach (especially if we are with a Real female, which is not good because we feel safe being out with a female (or at least not alone).

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    May 17, 2015 at 8:09 pm

    Michael where are you from?

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  16. Michael ( Mickey) Burkett

    January 17, 2015 at 3:30 pm

    I am a straight man and I have several gay friends, nothing sexual we are just good friends and enjoy meeting and drinking a beer or whatever. I have had relationships with some gay men when I was a lot younger and would like to meet and get to be friends with a transexual lady and see what happens. I go to several gay bars in town to meet with my friends. The difference between myself and the younger group is that I have respect for people no matter what their orientation is. The only thing is the age group, most are very young and it is hard to make their acquaintance to be a friend to associate with on a meeting basis for the conversation and just for the fun you can have with the group. Like I stated, the friends I have are some of the nicest people you would want to meet. The LGBT in the club/bar we go to have a hell of a good time. We enjoy the friendship we have for each other, and it is a blast for them knowing I am straight and respect them for what they want to be. Thank You

  17. Tonya

    September 6, 2014 at 6:23 am

    I’m bi and read an article that said transwomen don’t like bi or associate with our kind. Is that true or not. I’ve been wanting to meet one, but after reading that article wasn’t sure what kind of reaction I would get from one. If they hang out or go to places where bi people are, should I go one of those places to meet one?

  18. knight4444

    March 8, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    excellent article

    • Lola Page


      March 10, 2013 at 1:14 pm

      Thanks, Knight. I hope you found some useful information here. Don’t hesitate to add your thoughts to future posts.

      • knight4444

        March 10, 2013 at 7:21 pm

        @Lola thank you for sharing your thoughts and keep up the good work.

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