The gym isn’t for everyone looking to get fit, and online dating isn’t for everyone looking for dates or casual hookups. But here’s the thing: sometimes online dating is the only way to find what and who we’re looking for.
When I was in my twenties I met most of the men I dated through friends. In my thirties, my relationships and trysts often started in bars or clubs. It all seemed so easy. Now, in my forties, it’s not so easy to find what I’m looking for.
I work from home, so there’s no work scene to flirt in or co-workers to set me up. I take dance classes, which are almost all women, and my long-time circle of friends rarely has anyone new added to it. I don’t hang out in bars and clubs anymore. For all these reasons, I turned to online dating.
You may relate to many of these roadblocks when it comes to meeting women, and if you have a particular interest in meeting trans women, then you know how hard dating can be in your day-to-day environment.
I live in a metropolitan area, but I still use online dating because of the reasons I mentioned earlier. In the comfort of your home, you can take your time to find the right dating site, craft a stand-out profile, and browse ‘til your heart’s content.
Niche dating sites like TSmeet.com and FindHookups.com cater to men and women looking for something particular. Even more mainstream sites can help you find things like kinky partners or couples looking for threesomes—it’s all about putting yourself out there, and saying what you want. I found a man with a foot fetish just by mentioning it in my profile.
If you’ve fantasized about trans women for a long time but never knew if or when you’d ever meet one of these strong beautiful ladies, online dating is the way to go. I never thought I’d be someone to use dating sites, and I was the last of my friends to try it.
It freaked me out a little at first, but after a few dates I was able to relax and build my dating confidence. After some experience, I figured out exactly what I wanted, the kind of relationship and the kind of person (which changes from time to time, so I use multiple dating sites).
Patience and persistence are key throughout the process, as rejection at times is inevitable. When you need a break, you take one, and when you need to change your approach, you refresh your profile—simple steps that can help maintain your mojo and keep your confidence up.
Why do use online dating? Share your top tips in the comments!