Advice from a T-Girl: Real Life Dating Tips

I have been using the online dating site to try and meet the guy of my dreams. I haven’t found him yet, but I’ve had a lot of fun and great hookups along the way. I’ve always said it’s not about the end result but how you get there. Well, in my dating travels I’ve come across some pretty interesting situations that have led me to come up with my own list of tips for guys who want to date trans girls.

Dress Nicely

I love when a guy putss effort and thought into what he wears. It shows he has time to plan things out and feels good about himself. I once went on a date with a guy who showed up in sweatpants. We weren’t at a nice restaurant or anything, but a little more effort would have been appreciated. Jeans are acceptable in my book, as long as your overall outfit doesn’t look like it’s whatever was lying on the floor from the day before.

Mind Your Pronouns

This is a tip that goes for any situation in life in which you’re not sure of a person’s gender. Just ask them which gender pronouns they would like to you to use. Some transgender people prefer neutral pronouns like they, while others, like me, prefer feminine pronouns like her. Even though you might feel nervous about asking, it’s a much easier thing to do than cover the gaffe of using the wrong pronouns on a date. This happened to me once and the guy was so embarrassed that his face turned beet red and he couldn’t stop apologizing the rest of the night.

Manners Matter

Put your napkin on your lap when you’re eating and chew with your mouth closed. You don’t have to be Mr. Manners, but a general level of etiquette is appropriate for any dating scenario, especially if it’s the first time you’ve met. To gain bonus points, hold doors open not just for your date, but for others as well. Politeness can be a really endearing quality. Other chivalrous behaviour such as compliments will also go a long way towards getting a second date.

Tips for New Online Daters

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