Online dating is a challenge and if you’ve met a beautiful trans woman who wants to meet, count yourself lucky. What I’ve been finding lately is that a lot of people on dating sites only want to chat, rather than actually meet in person. This truth is frustrating and wastes the time of those who are there to make a real connection.
After you’ve planned your date (something a little creative) your main objective should be to get to know her a little better. You may not feel instant chemistry, but that can grow as you learn more about a woman. The best way to discover who someone is that you’ve just met is to ask questions. And you don’t need to feel anxious because your date is transgender, you apply the same type of first date etiquette you would to any woman when it comes to asking her about herself. Here are a few questions to sneak in while you’re having fun…
Questions to Ask Your Trans Date
How do you find online dating? I find this to be a great icebreaker. Everyone has something to say about their online adventures, good or bad. You’ll also find out a lot about your date, while listening carefully about her experiences. I also find through sharing your stories, you’ll inadvertently pick up a few tips.
What was your worst date? This questions segues perfectly from the last. You may not have had a good date, but once it’s in the past, it’s something you hopefully can laugh about. I’m always amazed by what people have had to put up with, and that’s why I think it’s important to take your time and really look for red flags in profiles ahead of time.
What goals are you working towards? Everyone has things they are working towards (at least I hope they do), big or small. This question will tell you a lot about your date, where she’s at in her life and where she’s going. You’ll also find out if she’s a determined, motivated person or whether she prefers to go with the flow.
How long have you been interested in ________? Choose something that you read in her profile that peaked your interest. Does she study martial arts? Or maybe she volunteers at a cat rescue? She’ll feel comfortable talking about the things she enjoys doing, and you’ll learn about her passions.
These are just a few ideas to help get you started… but there are many more. Just remember, actively listen and keep asking questions. Your date will know that you truly want to get to know her as a person, and she will appreciate that.