Many transwomen will not date a tranny chaser. But you, my dear tranny chaser, adore these women and want very much to date and enjoy a pre-op transexual. This leads to quite the catch-22 which I explored in this other post: The Tranny Chaser Dilemma
Many men who desire a transexual for sex or a relationship have already encountered the truths below, and likely gotten some attitude for their tranny chasing ways. There is probably no point in trying to disguise your specific interest in transgender women, but a little knowledge and understanding could go a long way in helping you make a real connection.
If the following is news to you then be sure to take it seriously and either adjust your expectations or be prepared to learn the hard way.
1. Transwomen don’t want to be your fetish.
Transexual women often feel that tranny chasers reduce them to their body parts. If you have a very specific interest in meeting a pre-op transexual then it is often looked at as a fetish, because it is this particular arrangement of a woman with a penis that is desired. She wants to be desired for the same reason any woman would: because you find something unique about HER, and it’s not what’s between her legs.
Read: Is Attraction to Transexuals a Fetish or a Lifestyle?
2. You want pre-op, she wishes it didn’t exist.
I see so many TS lovers who are specifically interested in transwomen who still have their penis. This implies that you are also interested in the transexual’s genitals sexually. But what you are forgetting is that a pre-op transexual’s penis is often the cause of much dysphoria and suffering. She might like it better if you didn’t even bring up her “extra part”, let alone want to make it a point of attention. This doesn’t apply to all TS but does apply to the majority.
3. Keep your sexual expectations realistic.
If the transexual you’re seeing is transitioning and on hormones or other drugs, it’s common that their penis isn’t going to function as you’d hoped. She may not even let you near it. If you are letting shemale porn guide your expectations, you need a serious reality check. If this or number two above hasn’t completely dashed your ardor for transwomen then there may be hope for you yet.
Read: Having Sex With a Transgendered Person
4. She’s not your experiment or dirty little secret.
No one wants to feel like a notch on someone else’s belt. A transwoman is not going to be impressed that you’ve “always wanted to know what it’s like to be with a woman with something extra.” She doesn’t feel special about being your first, and she doesn’t think it’s sexy to be a secret that you’re keeping from friends and family. If you’re not okay with supporting her and being honest about your relationship, it’s going to be a big warning sign for a transwoman to stay away.
Read: How to Support the Transgender Community and Introducing your TS Girlfriend to Your Family and Friends
Would love to hear more on this from transwomen and tranny chasers in the comments below!
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