What Would You Do If Someone Revealed Being Trans To You?
So, there you are. Surfing the internet, being the hot sexy catch you know you are. And you see a cute face. Nice. You set your sights the target and set passion on stun. You send messages of interest, and you instantly get some in return! Sweet! This is awesome when it happens isn’t it? Nice! And you talk for a while, discovering the things you agree on, and what you like and dislike.
All is going great, all is just like you want it to be. This person is cute, attractive, intriguing, and alluring.
You feel like you are the same to them. And you arrange a rendezvous to meet up with them as soon as possible! But then… before you get together, they reach out to you one last time, and say: “I want to be completely upfront with you before we meet, because I appreciate your honesty. I have to tell you: I’m trans.”
What would you say? I suppose the truth is: you won’t truly know until it happens to you. There are a thousand, maybe a million factors that might determine what and where the truth of emotion can go from that moment.
Unfortunately, there may be a tendency to believe that the statistically traditional human being in society might not automatically be at the point of exploration with a transgendered individual, whether trans male or trans female or even genderqueer, but that’s not the point. The point that is more important, is that we are collectively learning to share our truths and our sexual realities in ways that we never knew before. And I know I’m still learning every week and month about what it means to interact with trans folks, and be sexually/emotionally/intellectually and socially connected to them, as well as what it means to educate and/or separate oneself from those who are not tolerant or respectful of the entire breadth of humanity, and ready to support trans folks in the slow but steady revelations of them coming out publicly to share their souls as freely as society says we all should.
So, I hope everyone has this experience, at least a few times in their lives.
Of course, one never has to agree to being intimate with anyone they are not genuinely attracted to, but, if you were to find yourself suddenly in a situation with a person who said they were trans… what would you do next?
I know what I would do, and what I’m going to do when I see her next!!
In love,
Addi Stewart
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