Transgender: Being a Girl vs. Being a Girly Girl

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Many trans women I know are worried about appearing feminine, being super girly and looking perfect all the time. Me? I’m kind of a tomboy. I rarely spend more than fifteen minutes getting ready in the morning, although I l do love to get dressed up for special occasions, but otherwise I’m a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. I am also 6 feet 4 inches tall, so it took me a while to accept my height, which is outside the range for most XX females while many XY females are my height or even taller.

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The stereotypical transwoman who might be portrayed in the mainstream media today is often covered in glitter, wearing heavy or dark makeup and false eyelashes, with a well thought out hairdo and some big fake breasts. For a time I thought maybe that was what I wanted too, but it never felt completely right. If that’s what you love, then more power to you, but it’s just not for me. I love my long, dirty blonde hair and usually all-natural look. I have about four pairs of the same jeans that are perfect for my favorite activities which include hiking and watching old movies with my husband. I can’t get into high heels very often, but I love me some cute flats with a rounded toe and a feminine touch like a bow.

One thing I do like to do is paint my fingernails wacky colors like neon green or peach. It’s something my friends know me for. But that’s really the only super girly-girl thing I do on the regular. Many people ask: “But you went through all that to be a girl, and now you’re not even girly?!” My response is, I went through all “that” (surgeries) to be myself. So that my body could reflect what I felt it looked like from the inside, not so that I could wear glitter and spend two hours on my makeup. I could have done that without surgery!

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