Greeetings to all you kink lovers out there who enjoy sex with more than one lover or partner. More people are either trying the polyamory lifestyle or enjoying the benefits of an open relationship.
It’s not always easy finding a third to join you and your partner. And if you’re looking for a beautiful transgender woman for a threesome, it may be even more difficult.
That said, I’m a big believer in being able to find what you’re looking for if you know where to look, how to promote yourself, and how to communicate. Nothing is going to magically transpire without effort.
Before you give up on your trans threesome fantasy, take this advice to heart.
Join a niche dating site. When you want a very specific type of relationship, it’s going to be hard to find on mainstream dating sites. You can try a trans dating site or something geared towards group encounters like FindaThreesome.com.
Know what you want. This seems obvious, but so many people go online and start sending messages without really knowing exactly what it is they want. Do you want a one-night transgender threesome, or are you looking for a regular arrangement. Do you just want to watch your lover and a trans woman get it on, or are there specific sex positions you fantasize about trying as a triad. Discuss this with your partner, as well as limits and boundaries you both have before bringing a transgender unicorn in because they will have their own needs and desires to add to the mix.
Write a winning threesome profile. Too often, men are so eager to meet women that they join a site, and barely fill out a profile (sometimes without a picture!) before sending off one-line messages. Women, even when they just want casual sex, need to know something about you, need to get a feel for you because safety is very important. Have your girlfriend or wife help write up a couples profile that shares an equal amount about yourselves.
Choose pictures carefully. A trans woman will read your profile beginning to end, but like you, will also use your dating profile pics to judge potential physical chemistry. Try to avoid the overused bathroom selfie or headless bikini shots. Show you and your partner’s personalities through photos, and PS, we’re not all looking for Mr. Universe or a Playboy Bunny.
Choose potential threesome partners together. This is very important if you want things to go as smooth as possible. Not only does this method help you choose the best fit for both of you, but it’s also a lot of fun. I often make a favorite list, and have girlfriends read through the profiles for a second opinion. With a partner, you have built-in quality control to help you spot red flags that you may have overlooked.
Stay positive and patient. Don’t expect to find someone the same day or even the same week that you join a dating site. It’s often the long game that brings the best rewards. Put the effort in to creating a specific detailed profile that states exactly what you’re looking for, but keep things broad like age range and distance to attract more women. Browse profiles regularly and write thoughtful first messages. When you feel frustrated or like giving up, take a break.
Meet before the main event. When you do get a reply from an interested woman (or maybe she wrote to you first!) arrange a casual meet for the three of you to assess chemistry. You don’t want to go to all the trouble of hosting a threesome, and possibly inviting someone into your home, if something just doesn’t feel right. Flirty chemistry through online messages can surprisingly fall flat in person, especially if you wait too long to meet. This first meetup can also be a chance to negotiate threesome limits and boundaries beforehand.
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