5 Popular Dating Sites for ALL Genders and Orientations

Whether you’re transgender or looking to meet trans singles online, you’ve surely found that most dating sites do not offer anything beyond the binary options of male and female. Further, most mainstream dating sites cater mainly to straight people, and some do not even offer the opportunity to meet same-sex partners.

eHarmony for example, was only open to straight men and women for years, but had to open up to gay members because of lawsuits over their discriminatory practices. Who wants to join a site whose founder says gay marriage damaged his company anyway? So some progress is happening but it’s still tough to find sites that cater to not only all orientations, but all genders as well. Here is a story on a forum by a transwoman who had her account at Match.com deleted after opening up about her transgenderism!

Well, let’s just leave those nasty sites behind and focus on those that are LGBT-friendly. Admittedly, most sites that are open to transwomen, transmen, crossdressers, trannsvestites, and everyone else tend to be “adult” in nature, but fortunately more options are being developed all the time.

Here are five popular dating sites for all genders and orientations:

The mother of all sex-oriented dating sites, Adult Friend Finder is open to men, women, TS/TV/TG, and even couples and groups. They know how to keep members entertained with tons of hot options like live-member video streaming, topic-specific chat rooms, and a no-holds barred approach to what they allow members to upload and discuss. Most of these features are free as well which makes a test drive a no-brainer, but you’ll have to upgrade to send private messages and set up dates.

Alt.com is where you’ll find all the awesome features of Adult Friend Finder, but with a kinky twist. Alt is a community for BDSM lovers of all genders and orientations. The members here are very diverse and open-minded, and the search features make it easy to find transgender matches who share you fetish or kink. Again, this site offers a free account, so check it out and see if it’s the place for you.

TS Dating is one of the few popular sites that is geared specifically towards transexual singles and those who want to meet them. Much more basic than AFF in terms of what goes on at the site, but don’t be fooled by it’s simplicity. The fact that TSDating has been around so long ensures a good number of trans members, which is key. Try a free account just to see how many people are in your area before deciding to upgrade.


You’ve probably seen TS Meet mentioned a lot on this site. I recommend this site to trans lovers the most because it’s basically Adult Friend Finder with all the awesome features but wrapped up in a way that features the trans members, both inside and out.  Create a free profile at TSmeet here and see how many beautiful transwomen are looking for fun near you.

OKcupid is a good one for those who prefer to eschew all the nudity and sex-mania going on at the sites above. That’s not to say you can’t find hookups here, but it’s a much more PG atmosphere. OkCupid has so many options for orientation and gender that I can’t even list them all here. Choose from heteroflexible, pansexual, sapiosexual, queer, or questioning! Gender? The list includes genderqueer, interesex, transfeminine, two spirit, and bi-gender. And that’s just a taste. And did I mention it’s free?

What has been your experience as a transgender or trans lover in the world of online dating? What has worked for you? What have been your challenges? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

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