Transphobia and transmisogyny are real, for both trans women and the men who admire and date them. And even though we are in the midst of a trans revolution, there is still a long ways to go around acceptance and understanding. Sadly there is a strong social stigma towards transgendered people, and sometimes those who date them.
If you have only admired trans women from afar and haven’t yet had the courage to ask one of these lovely ladies out on a date, here are a few things that will help you.
Your sexual orientation doesn’t change. A trans woman is a woman, and whether you identify as straight, gay, bi, pansexual, omnisexual, or asexual, dating a t-gal doesn’t change that. Unfortunately, some men are ridiculed with homophobic slurs or seen as not “real men” if they date trans women. If you know what (or who) you like, fuck the haters and go for it.
Sex with trans women is not a fetish, even though this has been fetishized through porn and other mainstream media. And the desire to have intimate relationships with trans women does not make you a freak, or abnormal, or deviant. Thankfully, words like tranny chaser and chicks-with-dicks are becoming unacceptable by more and more people in and out of the trans community.
Trans women don’t want to be pitied. If you think you’re doing a t-girl a favor by sleeping with her or even going on a date, get lost. These women are strong for many reasons, not to mention the regular transphobia and transmisogyny they deal with. They are used to fighting their own battles and want the same respect you would show a cisgender woman.