I believe there’s a mate for everyone. No matter what you say, what you look like, what you wear, there will always be someone for you – eventually. Ever wonder why you hear about everyone around you hooking up online, but you’re barely getting any bites? Likely, all you need are a few adjustments to improve and make your online dating life move with a little more gusto – aka get some actual dates! Consider these three tips in improving your dating profile and getting you closer to that one-on-one!
1. Choosing the Best Photos
Some people suggest to get professional photos taken. A good professional photographer can bring out your best qualities. That’s not my style, as I prefer the au natural look of photos. Realistic shots of fun times, interaction with others, special moments, is what interests me. I certainly don’t go for the tough-guy, no smile look. Anyone will tell you that when your grin is absent, you’re perceived as mean, upset, or with having an attitude. Another photo recommendation: as much as some people love it, most people laugh and make fun of the beheaded “sexy” shirtless shots. I don’t need rock hard abs (nor do I really care for them); I want a personality to lure me in. This leads me to my next point:
2. Writing All About You
This is your calling card. This is where your personality should shine and start attracting all those potentials out there. Make an effort to write a real and thoughtful profile. Take time to answer questions. I promise, you won’t impress anyone with one-word answers. Think about it in reverse – would you be swept off your feet if all a woman’s profile said was that she had a favorite band and liked to work? I know you may think you don’t know how to talk about yourself, but you must, must, must dive in there. Ask a friend for feedback and help. Get them to share a bunch of great things about you. And please, don’t rush the process. I’ve taken a lot of time crafting my profile. An online profile is supposed to be a showcase of you. Take the opportunity and use it for what it should be used for. I take the time to share me, I’d like to see at least half the effort in return.
For example, if a dating site asks the question “what are your hobbies?” and you answer: boats. Those single-word answers are as uninteresting as reading a grocery list. Instead, write about what excites you about your boats… “Being on the water in the middle of the summer remind me of the best of time growing up. I love the smell of the air, docking the boat anywhere I choose, and being able to jump in the water and swim. I’d love to take you for a ride with me!”
See how a description gives a brighter picture and more allure, rather than a bullet-point list? And on to my final tip:
3. Sending an Enticing Message
You just checked out this amazing cutie trans and you decide to say “Hi”. But that’s just it… Just, “hi”. And while “hi” can be sweet and flirtatious, it only works if you’re standing in front of each other while there’s an adorable coy look on your face that makes it clear that you’re actually flirting. “Hi” as the ONLY words you utter to a cutie is yet another spoke in the lazy wheel. Now, unless your profile is particularly spectacular, that simple “hi” is not going to get you far. At least not with this T-girl. I actually delete “hi” messages and don’t even look at the profile from whence it came. To be clear, I don’t expect an essay professing how unbelievably sexy and one-of-a-kind you think I am, but if you share at least one thing that turned your crank about me, enough to follow up that “hi” with a few more sentences – you now just got yourself a view.
A little extra effort in building up your profile is a little like building up a good wardrobe – as small as cufflinks are, someone always notices them.