If you’re looking to spice up your sex life by adding a transexual to the mix, obviously the first point of order would be making sure your partner in on board for the adventure. It would also be a good idea to discuss what activities are in, and which are out of bounds. It’s all well and good if you’re both up for it, but many a three-way has inadvertently caused a dissolution of the primary relationship when one partner suddenly discovers that they didn’t understand the activities that were to take place. It’s entirely possible that in the abstract, everything is fine, but the reality of the situation turns out to be more than one of you can handle.
Discussing the specifics before a threesome, and agreeing to an exit strategy should the encounter become troubling to one of you will go a long way towards minimizing any long-term negative repercussions. This is good advice for any extracurricular activities, though doubly so with a T-Girl triple-header, as perceived gender issues might come into play.
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Assuming you’ve worked everything out and you and your partner are now on the prowl for a transsexual woman to bed, you have a number of options. If you live in a big city, there are surely clubs that cater to transsexuals. Other options, particularly if you’re looking for a tranny to perform “top” duties is to hire a she-male or find a gay cross-dresser or drag queen. The problem trying to find the perfect woman for your encounter, even in a large city, is that you’re looking for a small minority of a small minority, who is a trans woman who wants to have a three-way, is into your gender(s), and is up for whatever particular activities you have in mind. She’s definitely out there, but how likely is it that she’ll be in the same place you and your partner are at precisely the same time?
The solution, of course, is to search online. There are always shemales for hire, but there are significant risks associated with soliciting such activities. Online dating sites can be a good place to look, though the minority of a minority factor is still in play, you’re conducting the search from the comfort of your own home presumably, and time and location ceases to be a factor as you don’t need to be at a specific location by chance to meet a t-girl. An excellent site to try would be PolyamoryDate.com, a site that caters specifically to those who are looking for group sex. There, by definition, you are only looking at people who are also looking for a multiple-partner encounter, and it eliminates a lot of wasted time messaging transexuals only to find they aren’t interested in the tryst you’re proposing.
Just as communication with your primary partner is important, it is equally important that you communicate what your expectations in the encounter are to your potential third. We’re not trying to take away being in the moment and spontaneity, but if your highest desires are being topped and your third wants no part of that, better to find out beforehand rather than midway through what is destined to be a disappointing evening. You don’t have to be clinical about it; in your correspondence, you can work in what you’d like to do as suggestive dirty talk. You’ll find out pretty quickly whether your prospective third is game for your fantasy or not.
Obviously you should practice safe sex anytime you’re outside your primary relationship, regardless if you’re the top or the bottom in the encounter. It’s also imperative that afterwards you discuss how both you and your partner feel about what happened; and if there are any issues, to address them sooner than later. With open communication you and your partner can have very exciting adventures together, so play safe and enjoy!
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