So, yeah. I had this magnificent experience just a few days ago. I went to a Poly People of Color meetup event. It was awesome!
I practice and perform my love and affection without reservation or restriction, so I have and enjoy lovers of all ages, complexions and cultures.
This diversity is not quite reflected in the polyamorous community I see, I have to admit. It’s not good or bad, it’s just the way it is right now.
There is both good and bad and things beyond definition about the majority of people who practice polyamory being of European descent.
It works for me, and I know of wonderful black people who just don’t date white people. It’s not my practice, but they have every right to choose who they want to be with or not.
It’s all good in the hood, and I send the good word to the suburbs. But, there needs to be events like this, because there are not as many poly people of color in the world! It’s just a fact, it’s a thing.
Anyhoo, this event was dope.
There were about thirty people of color there, of various cultures, religions and levels of experience with poly. The group I ended up in a circle with was mostly black people—some continental Africans, some Caribbean, and others generational Canadians. It was diverse and very enlightening.
There was an Aboriginal guy at our table too, and it was just awesome what he taught me. I had no idea.
We were discussing homophobia in the black community, and I told them, “Yeah, I’ve had to reply harshly to everyone in my family and some of my closest friends when they’ve said some homophobic shit to me or in general… it’s been eye opening!”
The Aboriginal brother said, “Yeah, it’s weird to see there’s a lot of queer connection with Natives, but there is very little to no polyamory. And it’s strange, because we’ve always had an understanding of two-spirited people, which is our concept for transgender, so I don’t know why thinking polyamory is weird would be a thing for our people…”
I said, “Wow, two-spirited means TRANS? I thought it meant bi-sexual?” I just didn’t know!
He told me that two-spirited people are the Aboriginal’s term for transgender, and they’ve always had a place and respect for them in their culture. It didn’t change drastically until contact with the Europeans, but he didn’t get to tell me more about how transgender Aboriginals experiences have been over the years and decades of interaction, and exclusion, especially considering how Aboriginals can pass for European in certain places.
It was one of the best conversations I’ve had in a long time… thanks, brother!
And to all the two-spirited folk out there, may you find the love you dream of.
Sincerely yours truly,