Are you in a new relationship and falling fast and hard. The energy and hormones that a new love or lover excites can feel great, but it can also have us acting in irrational ways that can actually make the new coupling burn out before it gets started. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a story to tell about making mistakes early on in a heat-fuelled relationship that caused it to fizzle out fast. If you’re one of the lucky few that hasn’t, check out these five new relationship mistakes to avoid to keep things hot and heavy…
1. Spending Too Much Time Together
Of course, this is easier said than done, especially if you’re spending much of your time between the sheets because the sex is so good. But… the old “adage absence makes the heart grow fonder” is oh so true. A little time apart will have you that much more excited to see one another.
2. Forgetting About Your Friends
This seems to happen all too often, either with one or both partners. And your friends will understand seeing you less often when you meet someone new, but friendships need nurturing and attention as much as romantic relationships. And when things don’t work out with a new lover, its our friends we need most.
3. Talking About the Future Too Soon
It’s easy to get wrapped up in a fantasy bubble with the new love in our life. Whether it’s just you imagining a life together forever in your head or you’re already picking out baby names in bed together, you’ll want to take a deep breath, pause, and slow down. Creating a solid foundation is important for long-lasting partnerships, and this takes time.
4. Asking Your Lover About Their Past
It’s natural to be curious about a new lover’s past, about their upbringing, first loves, or sexual history. And it’s a good sign when you want to know everything about the person you’ve recently begun dating, but some things are better left revealed at the person’s point of comfortability. Let your new lover open up to you rather than poking and prodding.
5. Being Too Passive
When there’s chemistry, it’s easy to just sit back and let nature takes it’s course. Relationships should begin organically (they don’t work when you have to try too hard!), but that’s not to say you shouldn’t continue to think of and plan dates and outings that will surprise and romance your new interest. Most women want a man who can take the lead and be creative when it comes to spending time together.
Have you made any of these mistakes in new relationships? Please share in the comments!