Often men who are trans attracted are also into BDSM or some kind of kink. They are just open and willing to try new things without hesitation. Dating a sexy trans woman might not be enough. You might also want to meet a trans woman who shares your kinky sexual proclivities or at least indulge yours.
Many women, cis and trans, are not going to be up front about their kinks before you meet in person, or even on a first date because they want to see if they should bother. They want to know if there’s chemistry and in some cases, depending on the kink, if they are able to trust you… which takes time.
Here are some obvious and not-so-obvious signs your date might be kinky.
She’s on a niche kink site. She may not come right out in her profile and say she likes to be spanked or tied up, but if she’s on a site like BDSMdate.com, she’s got some interest in kinky play. You can ask why she chose that site instead of something more mainstream to open a dialogue.
She’s got kinky props in her profile pics. Maybe she’s posing flirtatiously with a riding crop while wearing stilettos, or wearing a leather corset with studs—glean everything you can from a woman’s pics. As they say, the devil is in the details!
She talks about “other” people’s kinks. You know the old line, I have “a friend” who’s into this and that… if she’s comfortable talking about the predilections of “others,” it’s likely she’s into some kinky things herself. These types of conversations are often a way of sussing out what the person sitting across the table is into.
She has the lingo. Most vanillas don’t discuss power exchange, fem-dom sissy boys, or tops and bottoms because they don’t know what that all means. If your new online friend is throwing out some of the language often associated with BDSM, you can bet she means business.
She shares her kinks. This is what every kinky man wants: a woman who won’t beat around the BDSM bush, making you guess what she’s into. Maybe it’s spelled out very clearly in her online dating profile, or in a reply to your message, or during your first date. Embrace her forthright attitude and honesty, and respond in turn.
Of course, you can always ask a woman. If she’s offended, it probably wasn’t a good match to begin with.
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