Most us watch porn alone, either because we’re uncomfortable masturbating in front of someone else, or we’d rather not share what turns us on. If you can get past these, the activity of watching sexy scenes with your lover can be a wonderful addition to your relationship.
Tips for Watching Porn Together
Understand the difference between real life sex vs. porn sex. If porn was your primary sex education, over actual experience, then you best know there is a wide chasm between what real women want and what you see on your laptop. Let’s just say, the last man who slapped my ass and asked, “Who’s a dirty girl?” was sent packing while he was still hard.
Let her choose the channel. Women often have to wade through a sea of stereotypical, exploitative, misogynistic porn to find something palatable. Sorry fellas, but it’s true. Sometimes I get so turned off of porn, I stop watching for months. You want to know what tickles your t-girl’s fancy—let her pick the porn.
Be open to watch outside your genre and taste. As a woman, she might love MMF threesome porn, watching two men lavish attention on a lucky lady; but two guys sucking each other off might have your dick drooping. Me and my lover take turns choosing videos that are under five minutes, and refrain from making negative comments. Sexual arousal doesn’t have to be the number one motive for watching porn. It’s also a way of bonding and learning about one another.
Be sensitive to her fantasies and desires. She may have mentioned an interest in trying bondage, and you may be very excited to share some BDSM videos you watch on repeat. That’s fine, just don’t start with anything hard-core that might scare the thought right out of her. There’s plenty of kink-lite videos to show her first.
Try mutual masturbation. If you haven’t had the pleasure of watching a woman masturbate, I’m sure you’ve fantasized about it. Every guy I’ve been with has asked me to do this. When I was younger, I was too self-conscious to ever try it, but now it’s a turn on for me as well. Doing it at the same time, with the goal of a mutual orgasm, can be very hot.
Don’t be offended if something falls flat with her. Porn that gets you hard in a minute might be her worst nightmare. I’m serious. I’m often surprised at what someone is into, but I do my best not to judge or be offended by someone’s tastes in porn. Sharing your fave porn isn’t something I recommend with a one-night hookup but someone who you’ve built trust with.
Avoid trans fetish porn unless she’s into it. This might be how you first got into the idea of being with a transgender women, but know that it’s regarded as offensive by most of the trans community. Some t-girls might be able to take it with a grain of salt, even make fun of it, but err on the side of no. I’m sure there are many other kinds of porn that gets your motor running. Share that!
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