She’s Not a Porn Star!
I don’t often bring my dating and sexual experiences into my blog writing but occasionally, I can’t help myself. Especially when I get upset or pissed off. Sure, it’s a way for me to vent, but it’s also (I hope) helpful to share a female perspective with our mostly male readership and to help curb some of the bad behaviour out there.
Chances are you’re new trans lady interest or ts girlfriend is not a pornstar, right? I know there are are many porn sites and videos dedicated to trans culture and the shemale scene. I recently checked out a few because I thought it was important to see what I was writing about even though I tend to veer my articles to dating tips. The trans porn was hot and steamy, yes, but realistic, not so much. No porn is, trans or otherwise.
Which brings me back to my recent hookups that went nowhere but home. I met these guys online, sparked conversation, and eventually met them in person. I could see that sex was an option with both, and both did make it to home base after a few dates. Totally different guys outside the bedroom, but inside, it was like they’d read the same players’ handbook… which must have said something along the lines of: treat your woman like a porn star. Ughhhh! Let’s just say I didn’t get off either time or see either guy again.
Let me explain: men who watch a lot of porn or learned about sex through porn have a tendency to think what they watch is what real sex is like with a transgender woman and how women truly behave during sex. They might even think most women want to be spanked or a creampie or to be called a dirty slut. You get the picture. Sure, some women want these things but most don’t, and most women sure as hell don’t want this level of intimacy on a first hookup. We all have our preferences and kinks, but women want to build trust first. Respect, fellas.
I hope my recent porny hookups aren’t a trend. Please, god, NO! If you’re still not clear on what I’m talking about, check out: Make Love Not Porn. It’s a fantastic website that explains more about the difference between porn sex and real sex. Plenty of tips there to help you make love to a beautiful trans woman.
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