It’s been too long, has it? If you haven’t had any for eons, you might start to wonder if there’s something wrong with you.
If none of the transgender women you meet want to get naked with you, you might feel bitter or depressed or just puzzled. But before you start calling yourself an incel (involuntarily celibate) or concluding you have no sex appeal, consider the reasons you aren’t getting laid so you can fix them.
5 Reasons You Aren’t Getting Laid
1. You think you’re doing trans women a favor.
If you think trans women are “lucky” because you want them, you might find your dance card empty into eternity. No woman wants men to feel sorry for her, and she doesn’t want—or need—your pity.
Don’t mistake pity for empathy. It’s one thing to understand that trans women face many societal and personal challenges, and to be patient and stand up as an ally. But this can quickly slide into overkill, where you think you’re some kind of savior because she makes your dick hard.
Women are familiar with the you’re-lucky-I’m-willing-to-sleep-with-you guy. Get over it, and get in line—all women have numerous options.
2. You come on too strong, and look like a narcissist.
This one is related to the first, but it’s more about how you are in general. If you think you’re God’s gift to women, you probably aren’t. Women hate this brand of masculine entitlement, where you expect her to want you instead of inviting her to get to know you and see if she does.
3. Your desperation is obvious.
Women are extremely aroused by a man’s attraction—but if you act desperate, whining and begging, pestering and groping, acting jealous or pouting when you don’t get sex, we run screaming.
4. All you want is sex.
Even casual encounters and hookups are about two human beings getting together for a good time—it’s all about sex, but it’s not all about sex. If you don’t understand this innately, it’s hard to explain it, but the difference is the understanding that a woman is a unique human, not a set of body parts or a blow-up sex doll.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex, but if she is interchangeable with the next fuck, or with a plastic vagina or dick you can buy at a sex store, there is nothing there for a woman to feel excited by.
If you are so horny you’ll fuck anything, try being more mindful and take a few moments to consider each woman you want as an interesting human being. Asking about her interests and her day and showing common courtesy to her as a human being will go a long way.
5. You’re boring.
If you don’t have anything in your life but prowling the internet for TS hookups, you might keep coming up blank and not know why. Women aren’t attracted to guys who are as dull as a potato. It’s not about being an outlandish pirate—it’s about living a fulfilling life. Do you have friends and family you care about? A dog you love jogging with? A passion for cooking shows, authors you enjoy? Not boring.
If you’re always complaining about others, have nothing to do and no personal interests, you’re boring. Get a life, and you’ll get laid.
Are you getting laid? What tips can you share? Please leave a comment!