You may be fantasizing about dating and hooking up with a trans woman, but the closest you’ve come is jerking off to the trans porn you browse late at night. It’s something, right?
At least it exists to fulfill your fantasy in some way until you actually meet a trans woman (it’s okay if you want to keep it a fantasy too.) What’s not okay is if you believe everything you see.
Like all porn, what you watch with trans women is a make-believe world, made primarily for the enjoyment of men. It’s not often female friendly, and it gets so much about sex wrong. It’s all fine as long as you don’t succumb to a porn addiction, or use what you see as educational to bring into your bedroom.
What’s Right and Wrong about Transgender Porn
Trans women like sex.
They like sex as much as cis women. And just like some cis women can take or leave sex, so can some trans women. If you watch a lot of trans porn, you may think they are all sex-obsessed addicts, but remember you’re watching porn for the sex—that’s what it’s all about.
Trans women who are transitioning may want nothing to do with what you traditionally think of sex for a variety of reasons. It’s good to see trans women included in porn, but you have to remember all women in porn are being fetishized to a certain degree.
Trans women like men, women, and both sometimes.
I see a lot of trans porn that involves threesomes and other group-sex scenarios. A lot of men confuse gender identity with sexual orientation, and I get it. A woman born a man may have dated women before their transition, and switched to men after, or continued to date women—it can become confusing.
Again, what you see on screen isn’t real—it’s people being paid to play a part. For example cis women in porn threesomes, who make out with each other, aren’t usually lesbians. And it’s thins like this that have so many men fixated on the FFM threesome, rather than indulging a woman’s MMF fantasy.
Trans women can be kinky.
It’s hard to find straight-up vanilla vids between men and trans women. And I’ve never found amateur porn featuring a trans woman. I would love to see this, but it’s usually super kinky scenes laced with BDSM.
Whatever floats your boat, but there are plenty of t-girls who enjoy casual connections that are more romantic than raunchy. If kinky trans women are what you’re looking for, cut to the chase and let that be known in your online dating profile.
Trans women have dicks.
Have you ever seen a trans porn video that showcases a trans woman without a dick? Neither have I. And this kind of singular view makes offensive terms like “chicks with dicks” so ubiquitous. It’s a big part of the attraction for so many men, especially when accompanied by a beautiful pair of breasts, and trans women who film porn know this.
But many of these women are sex workers trying to make an income because of the discrimination they face trying to find employment. Or they might be saving for surgery. Just know that it’s not just “chicks with dicks” looking for casual sex or relationships online.
Trans women love blowjobs.
It seems every trans woman on the small screen wants her cock sucked by a cis dude. And it’s hot, even for a cis gal like myself. I’ve always liked seeing a cock inside a man’s mouth, whatever that means. But the truth is, many trans women don’t get turned on by the thought, and they won’t let your mouth near their shaft. If this is a dealbreaker for you, again, put it out there in your profile. No point wasting your time, or theirs.
Trans women are sex-obsessed.
This is what porn would have you think about ALL women. They would also like you to think women love creampies, gagging on cocks, extreme BDSM, and being dominated at all times. Sorry, but no.
Porn doesn’t depict real-life sex and if you try to transfer it to your real-life hookups, you can only pray that she doesn’t run for the hills. Don’t learn about sex from porn. Instead use it as a masturbatory tool to get you off. Are there trans nymphos out there, of course, but it’s not the norm.
Enjoy trans porn for porn’s sake, but don’t use it as a guide to what individual trans women are like in bed or what they like and don’t like when it comes to sex.
Do you watch trans porn? What specifically about it turns you on?
Tell us what you think