BDSM is becoming more mainstream, especially after the 50 Shades series brought it to the forefront of popular culture. Even if you’re not a sadist or masochist, you can still indulge in a little bit of power play. Amanda, an expert-level Domme on Find a Femdom, says, “Newbies are always a bit scared to start, but it doesn’t have to be all whips and chains. Power play can be sensual and fun too. The most important thing to remember is: do what you like to do and have a good time. There’s no need to take it too seriously unless you and your partner want to take your sexual role playing there.”
Here are a few ideas to indulge your kinky curious side…
Bondage Games
Many sex shops or local munches have beginner bondage classes, if you want an in-person tutorial. Otherwise, you can look for instructional videos online or even buy a book, like one from The Two Knotty Boys series. If you don’t want to get too technical, use a necktie or a scarf to bind your partner’s hands behind their back, or above their head to the bed frame. That little bit of helplessness can elevate a sexual encounter.
Sensory Deprivation
Try using that scarf or necktie as a blindfold, then caress or lick your lover all over. Mix in a variety of sensations that will keep them guessing. Use different things like a feather, soft piece of fabric, or even an ice cube to surprise them.
Submissive Positions
During sex, putting your partner in certain positions can make them feel very submissive. Tell you trans girlfriend to kneel on the floor while giving you a blow job, or order her to get on the bed on hands and knees and wait for you. Of course in that situation you should make them wait a bit longer than is comfortable. Switching roles is also exciting!
Pleasure Teasing
Prolonging arousal is a beautiful thing. Tease your lover by stroking her erogenous zones lightly, for a while. Only let her come when you are ready. When you delay orgasm, it makes the big explosion even better. This tiny bit of control over your partner can be thrilling for both of you.
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