Turn up the heat in the bedroom with a simple mirror. You and your transgender lover can amp up arousal by watching the action from a new angle, whether with a full-length mirror, a ceiling mirror, a dresser mirror, or a hand-held one.
Mirrors can help your lover see what you’re seeing, and vice versa, doubling your pleasure.
How to Use Mirrors for Sexy Fun
Slow dance and undress her in front of a hall mirror.
You can increase anticipation by rocking back and forth to your favorite slow jam. If she catches a glimpse over her shoulder of your hand on the small of her back, or in her hair, it will kick things up a notch.
Ease her self-consciousness, or yours, with mood lighting.
Warehouse or hospital lighting is too stark. When women say they don’t like to do it with the lights on, that’s usually because guys have intense overhead lighting or fluorescent bulbs. A few inexpensive lamps or tea lights will do the trick. She’ll come alive under soft lighting.
Women are visual creatures too, but she wants silhouettes and gestures, not a search light magnifying pores and calluses.
Steam things up in the shower.
Hang a mirror on the back of the bathroom door if the counter top one isn’t angled at the tub. Enjoy a sensual visual and tactile experience together getting ready for the main course—soap each other up, shampoo her hair, or shave her legs while she watches.
Take doggie style to the next level.
There are lots of reasons why it’s hot to do it with her all on all fours, but one of your favorites is the view. You get to watch the penetration up close while she usually sees a pillow or a wall.
With her facing a mirror, she’ll get to see some action too—you thrusting, and your expressions of pleasure.
Deepen Intimacy through Eye Contact
One reason face to face sex is so exciting is because eye contact connects lovers emotionally. A mirror allows this intimacy in a hundred other positions, including oral sex.
Get an Up-Close and Personal View
Use a hair mirror to give both of you access to see penetration, anal sex, or oral sex up close. She can angle it to get a nice view of you licking her pussy or sucking her dick, or to see you enter her.
Improve Self-Esteem with Mirror Sex
If one of you or both of you are reluctant to see yourselves going at it, and it’s not just bad lighting, consider giving it a go anyways. You may have a certain view in your mind’s eye of how things appear, but the truth might be far more sensual than you are expecting.
One of my lovers was a little self-conscious about how hirsute he was, since Burt Reynolds is not in style and smooth chested, smaller men seemed to be filling the fashion pages. I wanted him to see what I see—a gorgeous, virile, masculine figure.
Another friend of mine is on the voluptuous side of things. She loves doing it with the lights on and seeing herself in a mirror because it’s empowering to view all kinds of bodies as sexual.
Your trans girlfriend may have some issues from gender dysphoria or from women’s exacting expectations. If she’s comfortable and willing to try, show her what YOU see when you make love. A simple mirror can change the way you look at yourself and your lovers!
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