Bondage isn’t just for bdsm lovers or full-on kink relationships. It’s a lot more mainstream than you might think, and if you’ve never tried it… you should! I was a late bloomer when it came to exploring my sexuality and maybe you are too, but it’s never too late to try new things. If you’re a bondage beginner, here are a few tips and considerations that will help you get started.
A Willing Partner
Not everyone is going to want to try bondage because there has to be established trust between partners who engage in any bdsm activity. You can always bring it up in casual conversation with your lover to get a feel for their interest. I never recommend bondage for hookups.
Time and Place
Although bondage can be spontaneous, it works best when you don’t have a specific time frame to work around and somewhere you can be comfortable. I still like it best on a nice old comfy bed.
Planning
If you’ve discussed the possibility of tying your partner up or yourself being tied, then you’ll want to make sure you have the restraints that you both are comfortable using (mentally and physically) and that you have a safeword you can used when you want the role playing to end or the cuffs to come off.
Restraints
You don’t have to buy expensive restraints from sex shops, at least not when you’re just beginning to explore bondage. Look around the house for everyday restraints… believe me, your house if full of them. If bondage becomes your thing, you might want to invest in some metal or leather cuffs. Bondage tape is great too, and super cheap!
Start Slow
You’ll want to take things slow and by that I mean your partner probably doesn’t want to be hog-tied her first time. Loose ties on the wrists, not behind the back, are a good starting place. As you both become more comfortable, you can try various positions and maybe wrists and ankles.
Beyond Bondage
I always like to mix a few other elements in with bondage play. My favorites are roleplaying, blindfolding, spanking, and sensory play. These add-ons are especially fun when a couple naturally has a dominant and submissive natures.
Bondage is a great place to explore your sexual fantasies and desires, and with the right partner and a little imagination, there are endless possibilities.
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