I get it—you love getting off to the kind of women you find hot, just like every other guy.
We all thought that the porn shaming censorship loving Moral Majority and old-guard feminism had passed, in favor of sex for all and freedom. But now we’re hearing it again—porn harms transgender women by sexualizing them.
What gives? And what’s a guy to do? Should you neglect and ignore transgender women? Treat them like sisters instead of women you’re hot for?
I personally like to ignore the voices of condemnation dictating my desires. But that doesn’t mean I want to hurt women (cis and trans), or men for that matter. There’s a happy middle ground.
Transgender Porn Basics
Watch consensual videos.
It’s not always possible to be sure you’re watching consenting adults, but it is possible to avoid non-consensual videos when it’s obvious.
Steer clear of anything underage, and anything too underground—if you think the TS girls are under the influence of addiction or desperation.
Be wary of the possibilities that a trans woman escaping tyranny may be trafficked if she’s working on some porn projects. See if you can get information about the company, and make sure it’s operating above board.
Look for trans positive companies.
You can research trans-positive companies that create transgender porn, where trans folks are behind the camera, sound, makeup, marketing and more—not just getting naked for somebody else.
Remember that porn is not real.
Jerking off solo and being in bed or in a relationship with a real transsexual are two different things. All of us have to keep in mind that porn is fantasy, and the objects of our affection are not contortionists, slaves to our pleasure, blow up dolls, etc. They have real bodies, they are not machines. Porn is not realistic when it comes to performance, looks, or expectations.
Stand up for sex workers and porn stars, cis and trans.
If you enjoy using her unveiled body in private when no one is looking, stand up for sex workers when the guys are making degrading comments or slut shaming porn performers and sex servers. Look at sex-service providers as human beings whose services you choose to use, and respect them the way you would any other woman.
You don’t have to be all holier than thou or attend protests—just be a decent guy who reminds other guys that it isn’t cool to denigrate or slut shame any woman.
You can say something simple like, “Look, there’s nothing for us to be ashamed of, or for her to be. We all enjoy solo sex, and we don’t need to demean the performers we enjoy.”
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