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First thing is you want to make sure you’re aware of the BDSM myths and what’s the reality of the kink lifestyle. I can’t say I know everything, but I know what I like and don’t like. I’m going to share some tips that would have really helped me when I was starting out.
Tips for Exploring BDSM
1. Watch kinky porn. I have a big caveat for this: RECOGNIZE BDSM PORN IS NOT LIKE REAL LIFE. Most women do not enjoy a lot of what you are going to see in hardcore porn, so stick to the softcore, and only use it for ideas and inspirations, not something to imitate.
2. Visit a sex store. This is where you will find sexperts at your disposal, as long as it’s not in the back of your local convenience store. (It helps to live in a big city.) Not only will you be able to ask people who’ve heard it all, you will also find toys, videos and books for a new kink of sex education.
3. Take a workshop or attend a convention. Praise be to higher learning! Get online and discover what you might not have know existed right beneath your nose. You’ll find workshops on everything from channelling your inner sub to edging to breath play techniques.
4. Find a kinky hookup. This is where heavenly dating niche sites like BDSMdate.com come in. There are kinky folk here who are into everything you can imagine. Many are looking for beginners to show the ropes to, and you can create a kinky profile to find just what you’re looking for. It’s a safe place to let your freak flag fly!
5. Try solo BDSM. If you don’t have TS gal to get started on your kink journey, there’s plenty of fun to be had all on your own. Temperature play, strap-ons for one, and chastity games are just a few, but we’re sure you have a special list of your own.
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