I’ll be honest. I prefer to watch porn alone. I think most people do. But my last lover asked me about watching together, and we did many times. Through this experience I am able to reflect on what I liked about it and didn’t. I’ve also talked with several friends, both men and women, about their experiences with watching porn, or not, with a lover. Here are a few tips that I’ve come up with that will help you, if you are interested in watching porn with a woman.
5 Tips for Watching Porn with a Woman
1. Don’t Pressure Her. If she’s not interested, she’s not interested, so don’t push it. I was slow to come around when my lover asked, and it’s because it made me feel extra vulnerable. There can also be the pressure of what to do when you’re watching. Does my lover want me to do this?
2. Let Her Choose. You can watch exactly what you want when you are alone. By letting her pick, you know she’ll feel comfortable, and you might also get a glimpse into her fantasies. Either way, it’s a win.
3. Be Comfortable. Most couples I talked to prefer to watch at night, in bed. It’s cozy and if you do get turned on, which is likely, you’re in the right place. Not that the kitchen, bathroom, or dining room aren’t also great places to get it on.
4. Start Slowly. This is important, especially if you are with a new lover. If you put a hardcore bdsm video on right away, you may send her running. This is another reason to let her decide what to watch, at least the first time.
5. Focus on Her. A lot of men learn about sex from watching porn. And that’s okay, just don’t fixate or obsess or imitate what you are seeing. Porn is not like real sex. It’s just not. When you’re with a woman and doing something as intimate as watching porn together, she should still be your focus.
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