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Remembering What Pride Month Means

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Trans men and women face obstacles and struggles that NOBODY ELSE has to endure—just to wake up in the morning, keep surviving in society, and make it to the end of the day with more hope and energy than they had when they woke up. Then do it all over again the next day, with less help than most of us have at our disposal.

So please, keep things like this in mind when you’re engaging with your trans friends and family. They face obstacles in the day that cis-gendered folks simply never have to contend with on a regular basis.

And even though it’s Pride Month, there’s a bittersweet truth to this celebration. Please don’t forget the Stonewall Riots and the name Marsha P. Johnson in the midst of all the rainbows and glitter! Pride was started because transgender folks were being oppressed by the police in New York City, and they took a stand against it one brave night in June 1969.

Some people think Pride is just a celebration of LGBTQ+ sexuality and a party for corporate companies to practice a tiny bit of compassion for their queer employees and the queer markets that they want to advertise to for extra profits, but it really was started as a revolutionary protest against police oppression. That cannot be forgotten in the midst of the fun.

That being said, I just want to thank all the transgender folks who I have been intimate with over the years. You have expanded my heart and my soul, and especially my understanding of what it means to be a human being, and what is physically and emotionally possible with our humanity.

And just to speak a little about transgender intimacy: I am currently in the mind-opening experience of witnessing a former erotic art partner of mine transition from woman to man, and I’m so very supportive of their transition! It is very interesting, because I am simultaneously witnessing the chemistry of our intimacy evolve and evaporate at the same time!

I am not as sexually attracted to trans men as I am attracted to trans women, so with this particular friend, I am seeing our physical proximity decrease, as their hormones and their masculine representation increases.

Their transition is beautiful and educational to observe! All along the way, we’ve still loved and cared for each. We celebrate one another’s growth and freedom, even if it takes us apart from each other’s embrace.

Love wants happiness for everyone, not control! And if there’s one thing a transgender person wants to not have to deal with, it’s being controlled.

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